A Self-Worth Reality Check (With Lore Points)

Because being the quirky sidekick in your own story is getting old

You keep showing up for everyone else’s quest, but who’s helping you slay your dragons?
This quiz is your chaotic little mirror. Are you starring in your own life? Or are you just playing a background role in someone else’s?
It’s time to audit your plotline. Rewrite your character arc. Maybe, finally, stop being the unpaid emotional labor intern of the group chat.
Ready to find out if you’re the protagonist or just providing coffee and comfort to someone else’s plot twist?

🧙‍♀️ Poem for the Plot Armor
You were born for thunder, not applause
But still you shrink, and clutch their flaws
You patch their wounds, you light their way
While yours stay bleeding every day
Main character? Or stagehand ghost?
Let’s find out who’s lived you the most

🎮 Who This Quiz Is For:

• People are constantly giving advice but forgetting to take their own
• People with main-character energy but side-character self-esteem
• People in their ‘Do I Even Matter?’ era

📜 Why Take It?

To recognize where you’re over-functioning, under-acknowledged, and spiritually third-wheeling your storyline.
To reclaim your sparkle, rewrite your narrative, and maybe stop scheduling your healing around other people’s chaos.

🕹 How to Take It:

Pick the answer that feels most like you, even if it stings. No overthinking. No justifying. Just vibes, truth, and revelation.

🎭 Are You the Main Character or Just the Emotional Support NPC?

1. When you walk into a room, you:
A. Scan for who needs help
B. Shrink your energy to not be “too much”
C. Take up space like you paid rent

2. You give more than you get in relationships because:
A. You don’t want to be a burden
B. You feel responsible for everyone’s mood
C. You know your worth, and giving is a choice

3. Your phone rings. It’s someone crying (again). You:
A. Answer immediately, drop everything
B. Freeze, feel guilt, answer anyway
C. Ask if they’re in danger, and set a call time that works for you

4. You make decisions based on:
A. What will keep the peace
B. What others expect from you
C. What aligns with your truth and timing

5. Compliments make you feel:
A. Awkward and undeserving
B. Suspicious, like “what do they want?”
C. Seen, appreciated, and confident

6. In your friendships, you’re most often the one who:
A. Gives pep talks and Venmo’s them coffee
B. Knows all their drama but doesn’t share yours
C. Is mutual with care, space, and boundaries

7. When you need help, you:
A. Keep quiet and wait for someone to notice
B. Drop vague hints but never ask directly
C. Ask directly and without guilt

8. When something good happens, you:
A. Downplay it so no one feels bad
B. Wait to celebrate in case it disappears
C. Post it, toast it, and throw a glitter bomb

9. Your inner critic sounds like:
A. “Don’t take up too much space.”
B. “You’re only lovable if you’re useful.”
C. “You’re allowed to exist without earning it.”

10. Your biggest fear is:
A. Being abandoned for not doing enough
B. Disappointing someone
C. Wasting your life being small

🧠 Answer Key

Mostly A: 🧃 Emotional Support Juice Box
You’ve mastered the art of being reliable, soothing, and self-sacrificing. You’re everyone’s safe space but rarely your own. It’s time to stop being background comfort and become the story.

Mostly B: 🤖 Subplot NPC With Feelings
You’re trying to be the main character but still trapped in obligation loops. You want more, but your people-pleasing is glitching your storyline. Character development incoming.

Mostly C: 🎬 Main Character Energy Activated
You’re holding the pen and writing your plot with bold ink. You’ve set boundaries, know your worth, and understand that being the star doesn’t make others dimmer.

🛍️ Products and Services to Invest In Based on Your Results

If You’re Mostly A:

• “Main Character Recovery Kit” with mirror mantras, self-prioritization rituals, and boundary scripts
• 1:1 coaching session: “From Sidekick to Spotlight”
• Downloadable printable: Permission to Be First

If You’re Mostly B:

• Trauma-informed boundary workbook
• Group support circle: “Middle of the Plot Club”
• Affirmation deck: You Don’t Have to Be Useful to Be Loved

If You’re Mostly C:

• Content series: “How to Stay the Main Character Without Becoming a Villain”
• Merch: I’m Not the Vibe, I’m the Plot Twist hoodie
• Personal brand audit: Own Your Spotlight Session

💌 Motivation Station

• Your softness is not your servitude
• The main character isn’t a vibe, it’s a choice
• You are allowed to take up unreasonable amounts of space
• The ones who ask nothing from you are the ones worth everything

✨ Grounding Ritual: The Spotlight Spell

You’ll Need:

• Mirror
• Candle
• Lip gloss or Chapstick
• A piece of paper and a pen

Steps:

1. Light the candle and stare into your own eyes in the mirror
2. Say: “I deserve to be seen, to be known, to be loved without performing”
3. Apply the lip gloss as armor
4. Write down 3 things that make you the main character in your life
5. Burn the paper or tuck it into your pillow

💌 Love Letter to Yourself

Dear You,
I know you’ve been showing up like it’s your full-time job to fix everything. But it’s not. Your story deserves airtime, too. You’re not here to be a plot device in someone else’s healing montage. You are the plot. You are the storm and the sunlight. You are overdue for a soft place to land that doesn’t need you to explain why you’re tired. Please stop ghostwriting everyone else’s life. Yours is begging to be written.

Love,
Your Inner Main Character

🌟 Mantras

1. I’m not the sidekick. I’m the star
2. I don’t audition for my worth
3. My needs aren’t negotiable
4. Being seen doesn’t make me selfish
5. I choose my story now