Do You Set Boundaries or Just Ghost People? 🛑
The Emotional Exit Strategy You Didn’t Mean to Specialize In
Because disappearing is easier than disappointing… right?
Be for real. Not everyone was taught how to set healthy boundaries. For some of us, emotional overwhelm turns into vanishing acts, unread texts, and guilt naps.
You call it protecting your peace. Your ex calls it disappearing without a trace. This quiz isn’t about shaming your silence. It’s about decoding your disappearing act. It helps you build boundaries that don’t rely on going full ghost.
👻 Set the Vibe:
GHOST
Gone before you even blink
Hiding behind unread messages
Overthinking every word unsaid
Safety found in silence, not speech
Tired of burning bridges just to breathe
🎯 Who This Quiz Is For:
- People who disappear mid-convo then beat themselves up about it
- People-pleasers in recovery with a side of “leave me alone”
- Anyone who’s been called flaky, mysterious, or distant… but swears they’re just tired
Why Take It: To understand how you relate to boundaries, and whether you’re communicating clearly or just emotionally ejecting.
How to Take It: Grab a pen, keep it real, and tally your answers. Pick the option that sounds most like you, even if it stings a little.
🧪 The Boundary Test:
1. When someone texts you, “Can we talk?” you…
A. Panic and go radio silent
B. Ask “About what?” with suspicion
C. Say yes, but set a time that works for you
2. When a friend vents for the 100th time about the same problem, you…
A. Suddenly forget how to reply
B. Drop some advice, then mute them
C. Ask if they want support or solutions, and go from there
3. You feel most safe when…
A. No one is asking you for anything
B. You’re calling the shots
C. Boundaries are clear, honest, and respected
4. “No” feels like…
A. A betrayal
B. A challenge
C. A necessary form of self-care
5. When you’re overwhelmed, your go-to move is…
A. Ghost like a professional
B. Get snippy or sarcastic
C. Communicate your limits and unplug intentionally
6. The idea of confrontation makes you…
A. Dissociate instantly
B. Script your comebacks in the shower
C. Nervous, but you’ll do it if needed
7. You cancel plans by…
A. Not showing up
B. Making a vague excuse and disappearing
C. Saying, “I’m not feeling up to it, let’s reschedule.”
8. Your boundaries are…
A. Imaginary
B. Enforced with mood swings
C. Clear, kind, and consistent (most days)
9. After ghosting, you feel…
A. Guilty but relieved
B. Justified but low-key messy
C. Disconnected and want to do better
10. Your communication style is…
A. Avoidant AF
B. Blunt when cornered
C. Honest, even if it’s awkward
🧠 Answer Key:
Mostly A: The Vanishing Act
You’re not flaky, you’re flooded. Your nervous system short-circuits at the thought of confrontation. Ghosting is your emergency exit. Let’s help you feel safe enough to speak.
Mostly B: The Sharp-Edged Shield
You’ve got boundaries… kinda. But instead of communicating them, you throw up walls, sass, or silence. You’re not wrong for needing space. Let’s finesse your delivery.
Mostly C: The Boundary Queen
Okay, healthy human! You’ve been doing the work, setting expectations, and honoring your energy. Keep modeling what clear and compassionate communication looks like. The world needs it.
🛍️ Based on Your Answers, You Need:
Products to Create: ( coming soon)
- “Ghost-Proof Boundaries” Workbook
- Emotional Exit Scripts for Avoidant Baddies
- Printable Text Templates for Setting Limits Without Guilt
- Nervous System Regulation Ritual Cards
- Conflict Recovery Journal
Services to Offer: (coming soon)
- 1:1 Boundaries Coaching for the Avoidant or Anxious
- Group Workshop: “Ghosting, Guilt & Getting It Together”
- Mini-course: “Saying No Without Spiraling”
🧙♀️ Regroup & Ground Yourself:
✨✨ The Comeback Cord-Cutting Ritual
A spell for returning to yourself after disappearing to survive.
✨ Why this spell:
Ghosting isn’t always cruel; it’s often self-protection. This ritual is for the ones who had to walk away to stay whole. They now want to come back to themselves without shame.
🔮 What this spell will do:
Cut lingering energetic cords to guilt, confusion, or shame. Reclaim your peace, rebuild your clarity, and return to your emotional center with sacred stillness.
🧯How to reverse the spell (if needed):
If you feel called to reconnect, ensure you are certain about it. It should feel like a full-body yes. Write a new note to that person. Set boundaries out loud. Journal how you want to show up now.
But never apologize for surviving.
🧪 Ingredients:
- A small piece of paper
- A pen
- Fire-safe bowl or cauldron
- Salt for bathing (Epsom, sea salt, or Witchy blend)
- A grounding drink (herbal tea, warm broth, cacao, etc.)
- 15 minutes of silence
🧙♀️ Alterations:
- Use a black candle if you want extra cord-cutting power
- Add obsidian or hematite to your bath if you’re carrying heavy emotional residue
- Whisper into a jar instead of burning if fire isn’t accessible
📜 Instructions:
- Write it down.
On a small slip of paper, write the name of someone you ghosted, backed away from, or outgrew. - Burn it.
In a fire-safe container, burn the paper while whispering:
“I release the guilt, not the growth. I call my energy back with clarity and courage.” - Cleanse.
Run a salt bath. As you soak, imagine the guilt dissolving and courage rising in its place. - Sip and Stay.
Drink your grounding potion. Hold it like a sacred offering to yourself. - Go silent.
For 15 minutes, say nothing. No scrolling, no reacting. Just listen. That stillness?
That’s your truth echoing back.
🌑 Final words:
Sometimes we leave to save ourselves. This is how you come home without dragging guilt through the door.
You don’t owe shame a second chance.
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Let me know 🖤
💌 Love Letter to Yourself:
Dear [Your Name],
You do not owe your energy to everyone who asks for it.
You are not broken for needing space.
You are not rude for protecting your peace.
And you are not a bad person because communication feels hard sometimes.
You are allowed to learn slowly, speak softly, or say nothing at all until you’re ready.
You’re not ghosting — you’re growing.
With love,
Your Future Self Who Actually Sets Boundaries and Sleeps Peacefully
💭 Final Thoughts:
Boundaries aren’t cruel, they’re a map back to yourself. And ghosting isn’t always avoidance; sometimes it’s a trauma response in disguise. This quiz was your permission slip to look at the pattern without judgment.
🔐 Mantras to Close the Portal:
- I do not disappear, I realign.
- My silence is sacred, but my truth deserves a voice.
- Boundaries are not rejection; they are protection.
- I can pause without ghosting.
- I can love people and still say “not right now.”
Be for real. Not everyone was taught how to set healthy boundaries. For some of us, emotional overwhelm turns into vanishing acts, unread texts, and guilt naps. You call it protecting your peace. Your ex does call it disappearing without a trace. This quiz isn’t about shaming your silence. Instead, it focuses on decoding your disappearing act. It helps you build boundaries that don’t rely on going full ghost.
👻 Poem to Set the Vibe:
An Acrostic: GHOST
Gone before you even blink
Hiding behind unread messages
Overthinking every word unsaid
Safety found in silence, not speech
Tired of burning bridges just to breathe
🎯 Who This Quiz Is For:
- People who disappear mid-convo then beat themselves up about it
- People-pleasers in recovery with a side of “leave me alone”
- Anyone who’s been called flaky, mysterious, or distant… but swears they’re just tired
Why Take It: To understand how you relate to boundaries, and whether you’re communicating clearly or just emotionally ejecting.
How to Take It: Grab a pen, keep it real, and tally your answers. Pick the option that sounds most like you, even if it stings a little.
🧪 The Boundary Test:
1. When someone texts you, “Can we talk?” you…
A. Panic and go radio silent
B. Ask “About what?” with suspicion
C. Say yes, but set a time that works for you
2. When a friend vents for the 100th time about the same problem, you…
A. Suddenly forget how to reply
B. Drop some advice, then mute them
C. Ask if they want support or solutions, and go from there
3. You feel most safe when…
A. No one is asking you for anything
B. You’re calling the shots
C. Boundaries are clear, honest, and respected
4. “No” feels like…
A. A betrayal
B. A challenge
C. A necessary form of self-care
5. When you’re overwhelmed, your go-to move is…
A. Ghost like a professional
B. Get snippy or sarcastic
C. Communicate your limits and unplug intentionally
6. The idea of confrontation makes you…
A. Dissociate right away
B. Script your comebacks in the shower
C. Nervous, but you’ll do it if needed
7. You cancel plans by…
A. Not showing up
B. Making a vague excuse and disappearing
C. Saying, “I’m not feeling up to it, let’s reschedule.”
8. Your boundaries are…
A. Imaginary
B. Enforced with mood swings
C. Clear, kind, and consistent (most days)
9. After ghosting, you feel…
A. Guilty but relieved
B. Justified but low-key messy
C. Disconnected and want to do better
10. Your communication style is…
A. Avoidant AF
B. Blunt when cornered
C. Honest, even if it’s awkward
🧠 Answer Key:
Mostly A: The Vanishing Act
You’re not flaky, you’re flooded. Your nervous system short-circuits at the thought of confrontation. Ghosting is your emergency exit. Let’s help you feel safe enough to speak.
Mostly B: The Sharp-Edged Shield
You’ve got boundaries… kinda. But instead of communicating them, you throw up walls, sass, or silence. You’re not wrong for needing space — let’s finesse your delivery.
Mostly C: The Boundary Queen
Okay, healthy human! You’ve been doing the work, setting expectations, and honoring your energy. Keep modeling what clear and compassionate communication looks like. The world needs it.
🛍️ Based on Your Answers, You Need:
Products to Create: (coming soon)
- “Ghost-Proof Boundaries” Workbook
- Emotional Exit Scripts for Avoidant Baddies
- Printable Text Templates for Setting Limits Without Guilt
- Nervous System Regulation Ritual Cards
- Conflict Recovery Journal
Services to Offer: (coming soon)
- 1:1 Boundaries Coaching for the Avoidant or Anxious
- Group Workshop: “Ghosting, Guilt & Getting It Together”
- Mini-course: “Saying No Without Spiraling”
🧙♀️ Regroup & Ground Yourself:
✨The Comeback Cord-Cutting Ritual
Write the name of someone you’ve ghosted or emotionally backed away from. Burn the paper while whispering:
“I release the guilt, not the growth. I call my energy back with clarity and courage.”
Take a salt bath, drink something grounding (like tea or bone broth), and say nothing for 15 minutes. Just listen. That silence is yours now.
💌 Love Letter to Yourself:
Dear [Your Name],
You do not owe your energy to everyone who asks for it.
You are not broken for needing space.
You are not rude for protecting your peace.
And you are not a bad person because communication feels hard sometimes.
You are allowed to learn slowly, speak softly, or say nothing at all until you’re ready.
You’re not ghosting, you’re growing.
With love,
Your Future Self Who Actually Sets Boundaries and Sleeps Peacefully
💭 Final Thoughts:
Boundaries aren’t cruel, they’re a map back to yourself. And ghosting isn’t always avoidance — sometimes it’s a trauma response in disguise. This quiz was your permission slip to look at the pattern without judgment.
🔐 Mantras to Close the Portal:
- I do not disappear, I realign.
- My silence is sacred, but my truth deserves a voice.
- Boundaries are not rejection; they are protection.
- I can pause without ghosting.
- I can love people and still say “not right now.”